What is Unconscious Survival Mode Behaviour?

Unconscious Survival Mode Behaviour in managers refers to deeply ingrained, automatic patterns of thought and action triggered by stress or perceived threats.

• These behaviours often stem from negative experiences or fears and are designed to protect the manager but can unintentionally undermine their leadership.
  
  
• For example, a manager might exhibit controlling, perfectionist, or overly pleasing behaviours as a way to manage uncertainty, avoid conflict, or maintain a sense of safety.
  
  
• While these patterns may provide short-term relief, they can harm trust, stifle team creativity, and even might create a toxic work environment.
  
  
• Recognizing and transforming these unconscious behaviours allows managers to lead with greater authenticity, effectiveness, and resilience.
  
  

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Unconscious Survival Mode Behaviours

It is essential to first identify and replace deeply rooted and often unconscious survival mode behaviours before focusing on new leadership approaches because these patterns influence how leaders make decisions, communicate, and interact with their teams. If these behaviours remain unaddressed, they can unconsciously undermine efforts to adopt new skills and strategies.

 1. Preventing Sabotage by Old Patterns

• Why? Deeply rooted behaviours such as control, avoidance, or perfectionism often stem from negative experiences or fears and are automatically triggered in stressful situations.
  
  
• Consequence: New leadership behaviours like delegation, open communication, or risk-taking may be undermined by these old patterns because they tend to dominate when they remain unconscious.
  
  
• Example: A manager with unconscious control tendencies might revert to micromanaging despite training on delegation.

2. Achieving Sustainable Change Instead of Surface-Level Adaptation

• Why? Simply learning new behaviours without addressing underlying patterns often results in superficial and short-term change.
  
  
• Consequence: Leaders may feel overwhelmed as they struggle against unconscious internal resistance, leading to stress and regression.
  
  
• Example: A leader attempting to be more empathetic might suddenly become cold or distant during conflicts because their "Rationalist" mode takes over unconsciously.

3. Recognizing Triggers for Reactive Behaviours

• Why? Survival patterns are often activated by specific triggers such as criticism, time pressure, or conflict.
  
  
• Consequence: Leaders who don’t recognize their triggers risk falling back into reactive behaviours during stressful situations. With awareness, they can instead make proactive and thoughtful choices.
  
  
• Example: A "Judge" mode might be triggered by a team member's mistake. By recognizing this trigger, the leader can consciously choose to provide constructive feedback instead of reacting critically.
  
  

4. Building Authenticity and Trust

• Why? Authentic leadership requires leaders to understand their own patterns and act clearly and honestly.
  
  
• Consequence: Unconscious patterns, like fear or a need to please others (Pleaser), can make a leader seem inconsistent or untrustworthy.
  
  
• Example: A leader who constantly seeks approval might avoid making tough decisions, undermining team confidence.

5. Creating Emotional and Mental Space

• Why? Survival patterns consume significant mental energy because they are often driven by inner stress or fear.
  
  
• Consequence: Recognizing and transforming these patterns creates emotional freedom, enabling leaders to act with clarity, creativity, and flexibility.
  
  
• Example: An "Achiever" who learns not to define their worth solely by success can better focus on their team’s needs.
  
  

6. Promoting a Positive Team Culture

• Why? Leaders shape team culture through their behaviour. Unconscious patterns like criticism (Judge) or fear (Worrier) can create a toxic environment.
  
  
• Consequence: When leaders transform their patterns, they foster a culture of trust, openness, and collaboration.
  
  
• Example: A "Controller" who learns to delegate responsibility empowers the team, enhancing creativity and initiative.

Summary

Unconscious survival patterns act like hidden "software" influencing every interaction and decision. If these patterns are not recognized and replaced, any change in leadership behaviour remains unstable and superficial. Only by transforming these patterns can leaders build a solid foundation for sustainable, authentic, and impactful leadership. 

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